Unstoppable Force - Unmovable Object

Do You know it ? Can You tame it ?

“ The wind is blowing cold
Have we lost our way tonight?
Have we lost our hope to sorrow? “

— Alter Bridge — Rise

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Years in past I’ve been in relation,

We were drunk on desire,

We couldn’t get enough.

She loved my looks,

muscles, emotional frame,

emotionless — frame

-cough cough-

position,

how many were daily,

looking for my guidance,

how many were daily,

showing interest in me,

status if You will.

I

…

sighs

You will see it in moment.

I didn’t think that one through,

until few months in.

Before I did though,

I’ve got an important lesson from life.

Mistake number one,

Don’t move into her place or,

her family place.

Best quality of relation is when,

she wants to be in Your life,

she is invited into Your life,

Your place.

But why ?

And the story beings…

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Mistake number two,

I allowed to be in relation with her,

it was a wrong choice,

it was not thought through.

I moved to her family home,

took care of her children.

I witnessed ruin,

they were calling it —

home.

It was so clear that any sane man,

never stepped foot in this place.

But we are not sane,

we think with heart,

with feelings —

You know ?

So he goes in,

fixes many things in ‘house’.

Helps boys with school,

how to grow as young men.

This is first time in their life,

when someone shows them,

discipline,

being punctual,

keeping your word.

Needless to say it is painful,

shock to system.

I do not have to add that,

their mother do not have those qualities —

She does only when,

it fits her plans…

and

— Urges

In this ‘home’,

there is her —

mother, and father

well, it is a stretch.

Her father is alcoholic,

he rages during nights,

when bottle is empty,

cursing all family,

for betraying him.

What a guy huh ?

— You just wait,

it will all become clear in moment.

Her ‘mother’ is so happy new mule is here!

Last one endured few years,

fought with her.

Excellent, new one will serve us (me) good.

She is so kind that,

I’ve got two types of diabetes,

in first hour of moving in.

Here is where second warning show up in my mind.

Person is too kind, not knowing You.

Too fast — too much.

Love bombing,

Narcissistic types - wink wink

Apple do not fall far from tree,

it seems.

…

Boys after first encounter,

become better,

stronger,

more orderly,

less emotional.

Me, and her —

Passionate nights,

Passionate days,

Until —

I point wrong choices,

I do not give my resources to or,

attention to,

dis-respectable family members.

Boys know the drill,

we are peaceful,

best team on planet.

We are ‘ wild pack ‘

To sum up long story short,

Her mother mental problems,

destroyed three households.

Many lives were influenced in bad way,

her children that grew up,

were broken in many ways psychologically.

Those who got out as far as possible,

were relatively alright.

Those who stayed in contact with family,

had constant problems.

Days passed by,

Her mother disrespecting,

all men who did not follow her orders.

Her father drinking in his room,

shouting at night.

I thought of him that he have problem,

that he do not want to solve.

I — was wrong.

You will see…

Day came when mother ran up to bedroom,

knocking on doors,

pleading for my help.

Such sudden change,

of way You treating me —

Why ?

She have lead me to his room,

where I found him on floor…

Not moving

Ca.. Can You check on him ?

Please

Such kindness from such monster

— I thought.

…

I knew when I saw him —

- Truth -

…

Go downstairs woman,

call Your older daughter —

to come.

Is … i.. is he alright ?

— Go — I ordered.

She went away..

I’ve closed the door to room —

slowly

…

I’ve sat next to his body,

checked his pulse,

just to be sure,

I knew from colors,

fluids on ground,

lack of spirit in eyes —

He was long gone,

when she found him.

I’ve tried cpr,

massaged his chest —

— nothing —

I was doing it,

when older sister came to room.

(older sister to my woman)

She teared up,

her mother started lamenting.

I ordered them to call ambulance,

and wait for it downstairs,

— So they went.

I’ve continued to do cpr,

for 1.5 hours

…

until ambulance arrived,

from few cities away,

ours, were ‘busy’

…

paramedics came to room,

saw me drenched in sweat,

and scene —

they knew on sight,

what I knew on sight.

Women lamented,

pleading for saving him

…

Now ?!

… now You want to be kind to him ?!

After how badly You were treating him ?

— I thought

…

I ordered older sister to take mother downstairs,

— So she did.

Medics opened their box,

prepared adrenaline,

started cpr,

I sat wet from sweat,

of doing it for nearly two hours,

looking at them,

going through motions,

hitting chest with static,

applying shoots,

six shoots of adrenaline,

cpr

…

I knew

They knew

…

They have done the same I did,

we both gave those women —

kindness.

We knew it was too late.

Our iron will was,

to do

what is right,

in face of inevitable

…

Medic looked at me,

with pause,

thinking I have feelings for that man,

I have broken the silence,

seeing medics almost fainted,

after twenty minutes,

changing themselves in doing cpr —

— Listen Boy,

- I have spoken to old Man

I know

his eyes widened

I know,

and I wanted to thank You both.

I knew at first sight I saw him.

…

They nodded

…

I took my woman,

her sister,

her mother into my arms —

when they needed it.

I had iron will,

no emotions,

to do what is right,

at right moment.

…

First month in this ‘house’,

I was treated like hero,

with kindness from all family.

Because of how I reacted —

I didn’t.

I was strong.

Not long after that,

her mother started saying under her nose,

He killed him,

yes… yes I’m sure.. !

While family shook heads,

with disdain to what she were saying.

I wouldn’t surprise You when I say,

I ended that relation that was,

long overdue.

She loved my physical vessel,

my voice, status,

abilities,

frame.

Man,

who can restrain himself,

from pleasure,

is respected, and admired.

I told her,

I will never be disrespected again,

by Your mother or,

— You.

I packed my things,

went to my car,

saw boys standing near,

giving me some items left behind.

I looked them in eyes,

young boys,

we understood each without words —

and they are not even mine,

yet —

they’ll forever be,

I will be forever in their hearts.

I told them, they can call me,

if they need me,

implying only those two.

…

Be strong - I’ve added

Nods in response.

Hug

…

We are wild pack - I said

Each looked in each eyes.

I went onto road with my ride.

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Reflection

When You loose control over Your peace -

You disrupt Your mind,

and hormone balance.

You are getting fatter / skinnier than normal.

Weaker, more angry,

more open to diseases,

less energetic, and less positive.

She understands how tempting is,

Man that can bend metal to his will,

and his body.

Man who can restrain himself,

and both —

Him and Her —

from pleasure.

She understands - instinctively -

That man who looses his frame -

it is a sign of weakness.

He would bring danger or,

death

to nest, kin

her

... her survival

If woman losses —

Respect = Fear = Desire

For You

It means,

You have shown —

Weakness = Childlike Behavior

Don’t be weak —

Gentlemen

Now You have become —

AntiFragile

When material is AntiFragile,

Chaos applied on it,

Makes it —

Better.

» Check book by Nassim Taleb

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“ Before we find we're left with nothing
For every life that's taken
So much love is wasted “

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Years in past I’ve been in relation,

We were meeting her friends on occasion,

while visiting hometown.

One day we were invited,

for small party at her friends place.

Before arriving my woman told me,

Their son is very sick…

… — I understand - I’ve added

After arrival,

Greetings with gathering,

I was led to cradle with this…

… Boy

I saw four year old,

disfigured noticeably,

getting excited with his eyes,

spilling foam from his lips.

I thought

Poor little soul,

You are imprisoned in this destroyed shell,

In constant pain,

and they ( parents )

they live, and die,

with Your every breath… “

I took his small hand,

greeting him gently,

saying nothing.

I knew this small being,

have only few breaths left.

You will bring devastation to those hearts.

To bring You to understanding of parents situation,

Every hour, once or twice,

one of them had too, put tube in his mouth,

to suck fluid,

and foam gathering,

in air ways.

Every hour…

Every day…

For those that can count reading this,

and using meat between ears,

what about sleep ?

…

Sleep ?

I’ll explain —

Man was working in mine,

sole bread winner who build home,

with his own hands.

When he was at grueling work,

in hells mine,

she was cleaning their sons air ways,

two to tree times per hour —

Every hour…

When he was at home,

he was rushing to give her relief,

being broken, and exhausted from work,

but knowing, she will collapse,

if he will not do it.

Their ‘biological’ alarm system was,

noise boy made while filled with fluid —

chocking.

This ‘dance’

with life, and death,

took place in span of 5 - 6 years.

Needless to say,

they were exhausted,

in love, and despair,

holding their breath every time,

when little one,

was stopping his.

Day they feared came,

boy was declining,

organs were failing,

systems were shutting down.

One night, when they were all —

“ sleeping “

-on 40 minutes intervals-

Boy —

…

Died

…

They,

had their ears trained for ‘noise’

not

for

peace…

Little one did not made noise anymore.

They were sleeping for first time,

in 5 years…

When father woke up,

seeing daylight through windows,

his eyes rushed to cradle,

before they did —

he already knew…

…

Me, and my woman,

were invited to attend to funeral.

…

She told me,

Their son…

pause

I have risen my eyes, and spoke —

…I understand,

When, and where ?

-Implying funeral-

She told me.

…

I want to tell You something,

unstoppable one,

You think You are strong ?

I want to tell You why —

You must be strong…

…

Ceremony in church,

walk in black disguised crowd,

Cold rainy day

Rain

…

I was standing next to them,

after shaking his hand,

giving her a look in eyes,

and hug,

Me, and my woman went on their side,

watching one by one,

people coming.

Each exchange,

-dagger in heart-

Each cry

-dagger in heart-

Each handshake

-dagger in heart-

She was holding her husband,

with one arm,

so that she will not collapse,

from emotional overload —

exhaustion.

He was holding her,

with red eyes,

his face was not his face anymore,

his face have become a rock,

blank, without any emotion—

while his eyes,

were screaming in silence.

…

You think You are strong ?

You think Your situation is hard ?

I am talking to You —

Reader

I want You to pause reading,

Rethink Your Life

…

I was standing there,

Rain

My visage - blank -

Hardened,

holding my woman,

just like he is…

…

In my life,

I fought hundreds of men,

with my fists.

Criminals, hooligans,

fighters, miners

gangsters…

I have lifted tons of weight,

with my hands,

back, legs…

I never thought,

In my whole life,

The heaviest burden,

material,

weight,

will be —

— Air —

Crushing on me,

around me,

on all of us,

— Air —

Trying to grasp for next…

— Breath —

Just like You did,

Little One

…

Rest well

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Will of a Father

Will of Man,

that want to build,

give home to his woman,

family,

knowing very well,

to what he is holding on.

Will of a Mother

Will of a Woman,

to sacrifice everything,

for her child,

easing burden on her Man,

knowing very well,

to what she is holding on.

…

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“ This world !

Only love can set it right —ohh

This world

If only peace would never die ! “

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Do You know why,

You must be strong —

Now ?

For You,

For Others,

For Many.

Why You must never fail,

Never falter.

Be a champ,

Be a chap

not a chimp,

Do You know,

what is underneath Iron Will ?

Confidence ?

Control of emotions ?

Frame ?

Do You know what is unstoppable force ?

Why do Men become unmovable object ?

Are You unmovable ?

That of Iron Will ?

To protect It,

You need not to be moved by It

Do You know what it is ?

Tell me below…

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“ Yeah, oh yeah

I want to rise today,

and change this world.

Yeah, oh yeah

So won’t You rise today

AND CHAAANGEEE THIS WOOOORRLLLDDD ! “

— Alter Bridge — Rise

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Health Corner

EotD #10 Australian Pullup

This time we will use variation of pullup.

Depending on how vertical or,

horizontal Your position is,

Similar muscles will be used with different intensity.

By being on heels of the foot or,

bending knees, and placing feet on ground,

we change difficulty, and angle of exercise;

meaning leverage

You can use corner of stairs, bars,

bars on kids playground,

plank of wood, branch in forest etc.

We begin with reverse pushup position,

proud-contracted, all muscle activated.

No soft, weak, bend body.

Before pullup, we take breath in,

do dynamic move up,

slight pause on top,

controlled descent 2 - 3 seconds,

full stretch down,

pause at bottom 1 second.

Do not over-pull scapula from its place,

neutral hang still have actively engaged —

scapula muscles.

In terms of grip,

You are squeezing element You are holding,

aiming to break it —

this is how You engage lats,

and other muscles to be active.

I do that exercise two times per week,

with vest 15 kg, and my weight 100 kg.

It has granted me a lot of strength,

posture, and safe back.

Recommended amount of work per week:

10 - 20 reps » 3 - 5 sets

^ Do it two times per week.

FotD #10 Raspberry

One portion (123 grams) of red raspberries give:

Calories 64

Carbs 14.7 gr

Fiber 8 gr

Protein 1.5 gr

Fat 0.8 gr

Vitamin C

Manganese

Vitamin K

Vitamin E

B vitamin

Iron

Magnesium

Phosphorus

Potassium

Copper

Berries have properties to normalize blood sugar,

fight off diseases, and cancer thanks to high concentration of vit C,

help you loose weight, and slow down ageing.

Tasty, healthy snack —

I recommend combo of berries,

and greek/natural yogurt,

touched with spoon of honey —

Tastes like dessert.

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